And as someone who manages – or tries to manage- her own life on a day-to-day basis, from my dates at the agency to my personal life I think that I’m somewhat — I have some feelings about this whole thing said by the girls from Edgware Escorts from https://charlotteaction.org/edgware-escorts.
I think that there is one particular approach to scheduling and organising your own life and that is saying “No”.
Especially with Escorting, really when you start out, you feel like you have to say yes to absolutely every opportunity. On a practical level, you have to make a baseline income, so that you can pay for rent and food and so on.
But also you just feel like you are growing your connections and growing in understanding of the kinds of the projects you want to do the kinds of people you want to work with. And you’re really just exploring a lot of different fields seeing what works and seeing what doesn’t.
I don’t mean to talk about it like it’s a very pie-in-the-sky, idealess thing; it’s a financial necessity for most people, including myself, there were things that I took on that I wouldn’t have taken on had I not had to pay the rent. But it’s very much an exploratory time, and then I think as you get further into your career, then you might find yourself learning more about the kinds of projects you want to do as we progress, as we become more skilled, as well, our time becomes more valuable, we can charge more, and we learn to negotiate more. Also, it’s really important to listen to that instinct that tells you
“Actually, this project isn’t one that I think is really worth my time, pays enough or is going to open a door to an opportunity.
There are lots of different reasons to say yes to something, but there are also lots of different reasons you can say no to something. One way to approach it is to take a weekend, a day, half a day, two hours, to sit down with, like, two pieces of A4. And on those two pieces of A4, write broad statements or even specific statements about the kinds of things you want to say yes to and the kinds of things you want to say no to. Whether that’s specifically “I would like to be in a film this year” or “I’m no longer interested in working on this kind of project with this kind of company.” As a somewhat fanatical listmaker, I have done this a lot, I often end up slotting them into my diaries because I think they show where I’m at in my life, where my priorities are at, where my, like, values are at, but then also what I’m interested in, and enthusiastic about and excited about, in this weird world where we can kind of make these jobs for ourselves, but we also have to manage them. And to do that we have to manage our own priorities.